Even though the husband and I have known each other for almost 30 year, have been together as a couple for 13, 11 years since out commitment ceremony and almost two since we were married, I have recently taken to referring to him in mixed company as my "Constant".
"Husband" sounds so middle class, and while I want marriage rights for same sex couples, "husband and husband" just sounds like two women talking about their men who are out golfing. I want something deeper, something that is free from society's stamp of approval. I want something that says to people that he is my world, my better half. And don't even bring up the oh so dated & hated "lover" which infuses sex in an undigified fashion into all civil occassions like the sudden expulsion of gas from a cavity.
So "Constant" it is. He is always there when I need him. He is my compliment And he always laughs when I do.